How to Survive Pregnancy with a Toddler

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Figuring out how to survive pregnancy with a toddler boy running around me is not a challenge that I thought I would spend that much energy on. I knew it would be hard at times but mamas, bending over the side of the crib to pick up my toddler is incredibly harder than I anticipated. I’m talking about being 30 weeks pregnant while picking up an 18 month old boy from his crib in the middle of the night because his gums hurt from teething.

But as I have progressed throughout this pregnancy, I have realized that I do a lot to help us both get along throughout the day so our home can stay as peaceful as possible. I know there are many Mamas out there who can totally relate to what I’m talking about and I know many of you have tips of your own! If you want to add to our list, read on and then add your comment below!

Here are a few tips to help you not just survive, but thrive while pregnant with a toddler.

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How to Survive Pregnancy With a Toddler. Tips for being pregnant while having a toddler.

1) Start incorporating Independent Play with your Toddler NOW.
I could probably write a whole post about the power of independent play (IP), and if you haven’t looked into this yet, now is the time. You want to start this trait now, no matter the age of your toddler. And if you aren’t sure how your toddler will respond to this, then start now so you can slowly work towards increasing time your toddler will play by himself.

Independent play is simply you letting him explore a few toys on his own, without interaction from you, allowing him to be totally creative on his own in a safe setting. You’re going to want this time to catch your breath or to feed your new baby once she gets here or whatever you need to do. My 18 month old can play by himself for an hour and 15 mins (we use a timer!). We do this almost every day. It is a lifesaver.

2) Don’t be afraid to put everyone to bed earlier than normal so you can go to bed early too.
I think majority of moms are extremely exhausted that first trimester. I know I am! When I was pregnant with Bubby, I could nap or go to bed whenever I wanted. Now that I am chasing Bubby around all day, I am wiped out by the time my husband gets home and he is usually pretty tired himself from a long day at work, so early to bed we all go.

And this can include nap time too. There are some days when I put my toddler down earlier so I could take a nap myself or I just plain needed to lay down for just a little bit. Putting him down 30ish minutes early is not going to hurt anything and I use this opportunity to teach him he needs to quietly lay/rest in the crib until mommy comes to get him. Getting your toddler used to a flexible sleep time with a window of 30 minutes is a tool you’ll want in your belt when your new one arrives!


3) Allow the extra help!
We have fantastic grandparents and relatives who will gladly take our son for a few hours or even for overnight! I have found I used to struggle with this the most when I kept holding on to control too much over my son’s routine. I realized I needed to prioritize what was important to his routine, communicate that to whoever is helping and let the rest go. Plus, I want Bubby to be used to being around those folks so when our new little one comes home, we can all have a little break from time to time.

4) Try to keep up some sort of exercise routine.
I know this can be REALLY hard the first and third trimesters but I’m not saying you need to pop in P90X and listen to Tony Romo blair out your TV. I have found that variety works best for me when I’m battling prego fatigue. A 10 minute pregnancy pilates DVD here, a 30 minute walk outside with my toddler there. Whatever I do, I try to do something 4 days a week. What might that look like for you?

5) Take a risk with intimacy and your spouse!
Each woman has her own experiences during pregnancy and when it comes to sex, this can be especially varying. Some women are raring to go and some women are still searching for their libido. When I say take a risk, I mean take a risk on being intimate with your spouse and forget about the rest. Most men are sensitive to your needs (and comfortable positions!) during this phase. Try not to let tiredness rule out intimacy every time. I know this can be incredibly hard and a sensitive topic for some but take a look and see if intimacy has faded since being pregnant again. I know it did for us and we decided to change things up so we could each stay satisfied and satisfy each other too.

Use this time to try new things or to be more open with your spouse about what works for you right now as your body is changing. I can personally say that when my husband wants to be intimate with me and I have no desire to be sexual, I tend to give him the benefit of the doubt and things almost always turn out better than I thought. Just something to think about! 😉 Feeling sexually fulfilled while you feel like a giant walking watermelon can give you an amazing boost during this tiring time, especially knowing your spouse feels good too!

6) Start planning now instead of wondering and worrying about what it will be like when baby arrives!
I tend to ask myself a lot of questions about what will I do if this situation arises with our new baby and how will I handle Bubby in the process. I am a planner by heart so coming up with possible ideas incase the need arises down the road reduces a lot of stress for me. The balance of all this is realizing that things may not go at all how you expected and that’s OK! Learning to adapt to a change of plans is such a vital tool, and I imagine this is ESPECIALLY TRUE when planning for your new baby’s arrival.

Some things to start planning ahead now:

  • Bulk freezing meals and/or snacks for your household, especially your toddler.
  • Create a general menu of a week or two of meals so whoever may help you take care of your toddler can have a reference point (I am doing this for my husband too!).
  • Checklist of new items you’ll need to get for new baby that can’t be reused from your first baby.
  • Independent Play (mentioned above) for your toddler.
  • Consider having help come by once or twice a week to help with some household chores the first couple of months. I plan on having our teenage babysitter come once a week to sweep, do laundry, dust, vacuum, etc. (Teenage girl is cheaper than maid service I would imagine!)
  • Bulk buy items that are a pain in the butt to run to the store for when you run out. I did this recently with a huge pack of a TWO MONTH SUPPLY of diapers! Whoot! We also bought bulk deodorant, toothpaste, trash bags, etc. Household items like this give me a peace of mind, knowing I wont need to worry about buying them while I’m sleep deprived.
  • Start creating busy bags or simple daily activities you can easily do with your toddler when baby is sleeping or feeding.

7) You might want to start changing up your daily routine with your toddler.
When I first found out I was pregnant, Bubby was taking two naps still. I never got too sick during that first trimester but boy I would get so exhausted mid-morning. There were mornings I would put him down a little earlier than he probably needed so I could rest for a few extra minutes. We also normally had a mid-morning snack that I slowly moved up so we could just eat lunch earlier together because it helped me fight fatigue. Having an earlier lunch helped me a lot that first trimester!

Also, before I found out I was pregnant, we would get out pretty much every day and do an errand or two or go on a playdate. As I have progressed in my pregnancy, I can’t quite keep up with that every day business. I have started more at home activities with him so we can get used to being home more which will be the case when Sissy arrives (at least in the beginning). It helps me feel more rested now and will help us adjust to being homebodies when she is born!

I know we could add so much more to our list! What would Mamas like to add? Let us know in the comments below! And if you’d like to get tips like this straight to your inbox, click here and join our Mom Tribe.
Peace,
Glo

How Buying Diapers in Bulk Can Save Your Momsanity

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Can we just talk about keeping our momsanity for a minute and what that looks like for me? To do that, I need to tell you Only a Season Mamas something.

I’m going to let you in on a little secret. I am a cloth diapering mama who also uses disposables. I hate cloth diapering when we travel, so Huggies here we come. We are inconsistent about using cloth diapers at night. There I said it.

My name is Gloryanna and I love cloth diapers AND disposable diapers.

Here’s secret number two (no pun intended 😉 ): we started cloth diapering to save money. And I’m going to be honest, we have saved some money but there’s something about my momsanity that when I run into the pile of poop laundry, I tend to go on hiatus and use disposables for a little while. My son’s monthly trip to grandma’s requires a weekend’s worth of disposables. And don’t even get me started on finding the right night solution for leakiness.

And my last secret for you: As we continue to prepare for baby number two in a few months, I find myself being grateful for the ease of disposable diapers and have started buying them in bulk. Which means I find the biggest box possible and throw them into my cart. I do not want to mess with diaper laundry while I’m busy surviving my new journey in motherhood that includes a newborn and toddler.

Enter My Bulk Buying Mom Tip for you today: Huggies Little Movers 2 Month Supply!!!!

When I learned about this GIANT box of diapers I immediately jumped on board. Right now Huggies is offering this size of box for a limited time.

The two month supply is only available in size 4. Let’s face it, this weight range is the one that lasts the longest for our toddlers so I need a butt load of them to get me through the terrible twos. It makes total sense that there are 312–that’s right–312 in this one box that will last you for two months!

Can we just take a minute and look at what this number of diapers looks like compared to the typical one month supply?

I am most looking forward to this bulk amount of diapers so Bubby can wear them when Sissy arrives in March. And what’s great about the size they come in is that he will totally still be able to wear them in a few months, so even if we don’t go through them as fast as some might, we will have them on hand during those sleepless nights with baby #2!!

Plus, they make for a giant box which means endless, easy toddler entertainment. Thank you, Huggies.

Speaking of toddlers, mine likes to run around like a mad man and these diapers fit the toddler life perfectly. The diapers are called “Little Movers” after all…

I like to save money. I’m pretty sure all of us can relate to this one way or another. I have found that buying in bulk saves my sanity and is so worth it to me. If you’d like to learn more about the good stuff that comes with a Sam’s membership, then click here to learn more. Having a membership to Sam’s Club benefits me as a mom in a lot of ways, not just by saving money. Why do I buy in bulk, mamas?

1) It ends up saving me last minute trips to the store that drive me nuts when my toddler insists on snack time in the middle of the store. Places like Sam’s Club offer awesome subscription services to have that stuff delivered to my door, thank you very much.

2) I like the feeling of being prepared and stalked up. I like knowing that I’ve got a humongous box of trash bags and Clorox wipes in the cupboard to get me through all the dirty wipes and messes I’ll be cleaning up.

3) It allows me to personally worry less about store lists and grocery shopping and spending more than I need to which I think most of can understand. Less worry = more happy.

It’s items like this that I pick up from Sam’s Club and in bulk that seriously bring my stress level down a notch. And this doesn’t even include all the items I typically buy in bulk from Sam’s!

Right now Sam’s club has instant savings on Huggies Little Movers 2 Month Supply that goes until the end of January. You can save $6 on these bad boys. I did the diaper math and it’s cheaper to buy one of these 312 boxes than it is to buy two boxes of the 168 count. You pay almost $20 more for the extra 24 diapers if you were to buy the 168 count. So yah, go for the two month supply while it lasts!

Anndddd if you’re unsure where to find one, click on their handy Sam’s Club Locator to find one nearest you. (I would definitely take a quick check because when I did, I found one in a nearby town I had no idea was there and we go through there a lot when we head home to visit family. Score. 🙂

What do you think, ladies? Is buying in bulk for you? Can someone tell me I’m not crazy for thinking this box is HUGELY AWESOME?
Peace,
Glo

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Homemade Toddler Fish Sticks with an Extra Healthy Twist

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I hate all things seafood. I am one of those that wishes I liked seafood, but I just can’t bring myself to eat it. I have tried to eat salmon here, trout there, even shrimp. With that confession, I have realized that I want my kids to hopefully have a different experience. So, I decided to start with fish sticks.

Bubby has tried some different types of fish here and there but I wanted to have something easy and accessible to make at home for him. I came across this homemade fish stick recipe and decided to add some of my own favorite extra nutrients to it.

I like to add an extra healthy dose of sweet potatoes for flavor with added quinoa and flax seed!

Check out these sneaky, extra healthy homemade fish sticks! What’s great about these is that you can totally and easily make them in bulk and freeze them. Then, when you need a quick lunch for your toddler, you can grab them from the freezer and zap in the microwave for only a minute!

I like this recipe too because we use a hand masher and that lets Bubby get involved in the cooking!

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Homemade Fish Sticks Your Toddler will LOVE with an extra healthy Twist! Homemade Toddler Fish sticks!

 

INGREDIENTS
3 to 5 Large Sweet Potatoes, boiled and peeled
1/2 cup – 3/4 cup of cooked quinoa
1 can of Tuna (I prefer canned tuna in water)
2 Tablespoons of flax seed
3/4 cup of shredded cheddar cheese
4 Tablespoons of melted butter
breadcrumbs (optional)

INSTRUCTIONS

STEP ONE: Preheat oven to 350 degrees. Personally, I like to utilize my time when I make this, especially since I typically make them during nap time. While you’re prepping the potatoes, go ahead and get your quinoa cookin and stewin. I peel the sweet potatoes with a knife. It’s just easier that way since they are such a tough potato. Once I peel and dice my sweet potatoes, I get them boiling just like I am making mashed potatoes.


STEP TWO: Go ahead get a large bowl, add the tuna, melted butter, flax seed, and cheddar cheese. Once the sweet potatoes and quinoa are done cooking, add them to the tuna mixture. You can use beaters or a hand masher to bring it all to a smooth consistency.

STEP THREE: Get your breadcrumbs out.
Quick digression on breadcrumbs! (I use homemade ones from my homemade bread. Also, it’s super easy to make homemade breadcrumbs from simple ingredient store bought bread. If you look at the ingredients on actual store bought breadcrumbs, it’s crazy! You’re better off making it from a loaf of bread and then freezing them! They freeze great and will last you a long time!) 
*Spread your breadcrumbs on a plate. Roll the tuna stick mixture into “sticks” and then roll them in the breadcrumbs.

Of course I use my ever trusty silicone baking mats. Seriously, I blab about these ALL THE TIME. Nothing ever sticks and they are soooo easy to clean!

STEP FOUR: once you’ve got them on your cookie sheets, bake them in the oven for about 20-25 minutes until they are crispy and golden on the outside.

STEP FIVE: Once they cool completely, I just leave them on the pan for a while and then stick them in the freezer on the pan. If this doesn’t work for you, you could layer them on wax paper in Freezer Ziploc bags and lay them flat in your freezer.

TO EAT: Just pull out a few, cover them with a napkin and zap them for about one minute. Always check the center for hot spots as potatoes seem to have those easily. Trust me. I know from experience!

I love how the sweet potato adds a subtle sweet flavor that masks the quinoa (which can be slightly bitter).

What about you ladies? Any tips to add to our fish sticks?
Peace,
Glo

My Favorite Must Haves for Toddlers to Help in the Kitchen

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Something happened when Bubby started walking when he was about 12 months. He had to be EVERYWHERE I was. And if you know anything about being home with a toddler, a lot of time can be spent in the kitchen fetching snacks, figuring out lunch, surviving meltdown hour until dinner time…

In order to avoid having my clothes tugged on until they were two sizes two big and milk spilled on my shoes, I decided I needed to change my game plan. I needed to help Bubby develop as my kitchen helper. So I did what any good mama does and started googling, looking for tips.

I came away realizing that having kitchen utensils that actually allow my toddling son to feel like he is part of what I’m doing would definitely outweigh the costs. I want him to feel comfortable and confident in the kitchen when we’re cooking. Here are a few of my favorite items!

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Items and Ideas for Toddlers in the Kitchen. Items for your Toddler to help in the kitchen.

Learning Tower
I absolutely love having a learning tower and I wish I would have bought one sooner. It is by far my favorite toddler kitchen item. If you start looking up learning towers, you’ll find lots of different options out there. I wasn’t too concerned about having one that he could climb in and out of by himself, but I did want one that was smaller and wouldn’t take up a lot of room in our kitchen. I found this one on Etsy and enjoyed that I could customize the colors.
img_0020 img_0041 img_0039The biggest thing I would complain about this learning tower is that at first, I thought I would like how narrow it was so I felt like he was safer while standing with me. After having it for a while, I wish I would have purchased one like this. Yes, it’s bigger, but it’s foldable and I think I would have liked that feature better.

As you can tell, the width doesn’t hinder him from being able to enjoy what he helps me cook with! 🙂

Toddler Weaning Table
This toddler table or as many call it, “weaning table” is definitely my second favorite item. We keep it stashed in corner of our kitchen, and I love how I can just slide it over by the cabinets so he can work on whatever he is “cooking” while I’m cooking. This is especially helpful to have if I’m doing something that is hot over the stove and need him to be occupied with his own task. I can just set him with something easy (like sorting pasta or rice, he LOVES doing that!) and get supper going!
img_0043I also love this table because as he is getting older, he can carry his snacks over to the table by himself and eat on his own. We practice some Montessori in our house and this table helps with that a lot too. I love the versatility it brings and the independent training it offers too! Plus, once you start looking at toddler tables, I felt the price point was decent.

Toddler Approved Kitchen Utensils
I keep a draw like this just for Bubby’s stuff. I can easily grab what I need if we’re cooking a certain item so he can start helping me right away. Here is a list of regular go-to items that you’ll find in his drawer. I bought most of these from Wal-Mart and Amazon too!

  • Silcon spatulas–Wal-Mart has a great selection of these mini sized cooking utensils. As you can see I stalked up on spatulas, whisks and tongs!
  • Baking Utensils are kept with all my other baking supplies. I absolutely love this set and Bubby particularly likes the rolling pin. Right now he sort of whacks the counter with it, but you know, he’ll get there. 😉
  • Strawberry Slicer–Some folks might think this is silly or unsafe, but as he has gotten older and more in control with his motor skills, this slicer has been the bomb. He LOVES pushing down on it and watching the strawberries squish through! And bonus, he can eat what he slices!
  • This hand held fruit and veggie chopper made me nervous at first. But as he has grown, he loves cutting bananas with it. Again, this is one of those skills they develop and if you know anything about Montessori, you know this isn’t unusual to see toddlers use these kinds of utensils.
  • One of my other top favorite items is this tater masher. I used to use beaters to make our mashed potatoes, but now Bubby gets a big kick out of smashing them for us with his own masher.

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As you can see, I keep a jar with a lid and a small bowl of pasta so he can do his little “sorting” game he does. This is one of those of quick items I grab when I’m cooking something hot and I need him to be independent from what I’m doing.

Toddler Apron
If you’re going to be doing all that cooking, then you can’t go wrong with this laminated Toddler apron. It didn’t even occur to me to get one until a friend of mine kind said one time, “uh you know they make kid aprons, right?”. This one works just right for us and I like that I can wipe it clean.

Alrighty, mamas, let’s hear it. What would you add? What are some of your favorite items to have in the kitchen with your littles? Let’s chat in the comments below!

Peace,
Glo

Quick Tips You Need to Help Reduce Toddler Tantrums

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Ohhhh the toddler days. Threenagers. Terrible (or Terrific!) Twos. Whatever kind of animal you’re dealing with you as you go through toddlerhood, I think many of us can relate to toddler tantrums. I am so happy to have a guest post today to offer you some quick tips on ways to defuse a toddler tantrum.

I met Heather through a mom’s group on Facebook. I was desperate for help with Bubby and his napping and she has literally saved me! Once I started communicating with her more through the group, I did what anyone would do and stalked her profile 🙂

I found out that she is an advocate for Love and Logic. I had heard about L and L when I was a teacher and used bits and pieces of the philosophy in my classroom. It never occurred to me to think about using some of those skills when it came time to discipline my son. Just like any parenting advice, you take what you want and leave what you don’t need. Heather’s tips today are ones you’re going to want to add to your toolbox!

Heather has shown great patience with the many moms she has helped through our mom’s group. She encourages you to review what you’re doing and see what works best for your children. I have seen it in her comments to other moms over and over. If you are interested in more of what Heather has to offer, you definitely should check out her Facebook page she has listed below.

If you are interested in knowing more about Love and Logic, this book is a great starter that introduces the foundation of its philosophy. I’ll let Heather finish the rest!

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PARENTING & CHOICES: The More Control You Give, the More Control You Get

It’s split in the parenting world about what parents think of giving children choices.  Some parents feel like it creates choice addiction, or that kids should just do as they’re told.  Others believe giving choices empowers children in the decision-making process, thus creating a more cooperative child.

Giving my children choices is my secret weapon.  I’m a mom of two energetic, brilliant, and some may say strong-willed (gasp!) children, ages 3 and 22 months.  I am also a facilitator for the Love and Logic Early Childhood Parenting Made Fun Curriculum. I have enjoyed presenting a different way to view parenting and giving parents simple tools that are life changing.

Choices is one of those tools.

The interesting thing about control is the more you give, the more you get.  The more control you can give your toddlers, the less likely they are to experience tantrums from feeling “powerless.” The reality is, picking their own color of cup or deciding if they want to skip to the car or sing to the car as you leave the library, can empower your toddler while defusing a tantrum.

So how can we as parents use that to our advantage? The secret is giving your child small choices throughout the day so you can make “withdrawals” on the larger issues.  However, things can go very wrong if choices are not used properly.  Here are a few quick tips you can start using now to reduce upset toddlers.

  1. Give 99% of choices when things are going smoothly. Don’t wait until all hell has broken loose at bedtime to start giving choices!

  2. Provide choices on issues that are not dangerous or cause a problem for any else.  Always provide two choices that you can live with.

  3. If the child does not choose in 10 seconds, choose for the child.  For example, if your child hesitates too long  when asked, “would you like milk or water?”, respond, “looks like milk.” Pour the milk. So what happens when the child throws a major fit because you chose? No problem! Respond with a simple, “I know, it’s hard.  I bet next time you’ll make a fast choice!” And move on.

  4. It never fails that your child will want to choose the invisible “Option C.” Respond by repeating your choices and choose for the child if no appropriate choice is made.

There’s two types of choices I have pinpointed- choices that really don’t matter to you, the parent (“red cup or blue cup?”) and choices that are preceding a power struggle.  Make sure you try to include similar styles of choices throughout your day! Then when you know certain situations are always power struggles, start out with a choice. “Time to take a bath! Do you want to hop like a bunny to the bathtub or crawl like a bear?”

When I do this in my home, I can actually see my child’s brain go from “NO!” to actively thinking about which choice he’s going to make.

Brainstorm choices ahead of time so you will be ready when the situation arises.

Here’s a few ideas for choices you can incorporate in your daily routine.

“Would you like milk or water with breakfast?”

“Are you going to put your shirt on first or your pants on first?

“Are you going to wear your red shorts or your blue ones?”

“Do you want a story before bed or no story?”

“Do you want your night-light on or off?”

“Do you want to — now or in 2 minutes?” (This is a great choice for transitions)

“Do you want to walk to the car by yourself or do you want me to carry you?”

“Do you want to hop like a bunny or crawl like a bear to the bathroom?” (Get creative!!)

Go ahead, offer your child some choices and watch your child’s face light up as the ball is in their court! I’d love to hear some testimonies of how choices have worked for your family! To catch videos and tips of me using L & L with my kids, be sure to check out my Facebook Page.

I’d love for you to stop and post any success you’ve had to encourage other parents! Also, you are welcome to contact me through my page with any questions about parenting struggles you’re facing.

As always, let us know any tips or successes you’ve had in the comments below!